Please Help!

[n0130628]

I have always dealt with situations by starving myself, or eating very very little. I tend to live on tea and coffee. Recently my boyfriend found out that his ex-girlfriend before me had had his child, so he called off the relationship so he could have time to think about what to do and what it is he wanted. Since then we agreed to meet for coffee... in the time we have spent apart I have starved myself and lost over 2 stone in approx 6 weeks. Earlier this week I contacted him and said that I could sit and wait anymore, and that I will always love him etc etc. he responded with 'whats up hun, I am just busy at work at the moment.'

Yesterday I was diagnosed with Bulima, and to top it all of I woke up this morning with a text from him saying that he had met someone else and is really happy, and thinks its time I concentrated on making myself happy.

It has took him six weeks for him to be honest with me! I am so confused and hurt, he says he cares about me, but if that was the case why couldnt he just be honest with me!

So now I am back to starving myself, I have spent 5 hours walking around aimlessly in the rain today, to burn the calories and try and loose weight.

I need to loose about 2 stone max, anyone have any crash diets and fast ways....

[Roxanna]

hiya,

I was confused at the diagnosis, as bulimia is more a binging with laxative/purging, i m no GP but it sounds more like anorexia to me.
I use to just exist on coffee and when i visited my dietician at hospital she said it was the only thing keeping me from dying. It would be better if you could eat a little bit, i know it is hard, i really do, i m hardly eating anything at all and i am pregnant.

I can see how u feel about the boyfriend, it must have been a big shock to you to find out he now has a child. If he has split up from you because he needs time, then that is selfish, especially as you were a couple. All i can suggest to you is that you now concentrate on yourself. You are worth a lot more than to be picked up and put down like that. A good thing to eat is fruit, because it consists mostly of water, all except for Bananas that is.

I use to have bulimia and now i have got anorexia; although nothing new there as i had anorexia at the age of 13, but later in life it usually goes into bulimia.

Just remember that people on here do care, and their friendship is valuable

[n0130628]

I miss him so much, but I know I dont deserve this. He already had one child when we were together from a previous relationship, and me and his daughter got on like a house on fire and that made him so happy. I was aware of his ex girlfriend being pregnant when we were together, but the dates didnt match, so he presumed the baby wasnt his partly because she had cheated on him, and they ended the relationship.

I have lost over 2 and a half stone now in 6 weeks, and am still surviving on practically nothing. I know that no guy is worth getting into such a mess for, but this seems the only way I can cope. :-(

[alanna]

hi

welcome to the forum it sounds like you really need alot of support.
this is such a sad situation- its so unfair to get hurt by somebody you love.
try and not focus your starvation on him you know.

pm me if you want to talk

alannax