Jelousy

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Why am I so paranoid and Jealous....

ok the girl is my ex now although we both admit we still love each other and have casual sex etc.. and yeahh anyway...


I get so paranoid when she goes out and stuff its like what the hell I know she would never ever do anything like that so I don't really understand why....
also jealous as in if she's talking to a guy I'd always, every single time without fail (even if I try not to) i'll be like ohh you blatantly like him etc.. etc.. just going to cheat on me with him etc.. etc... and I don't understand.

I've been cheated on so many times before and I guessed that's where I got it from but now I just don't really understand ..........


Also take note it's not that I dont trust her as I'm like this with most girls I meet :/
ahh Help x

[CountingRibs]

Why is she your ex?
More importantly why are you both messing around with each other? No offence lovely but if you both still like each other then you might as well be in a relationship seen as your doin relationship things anyway.
However if you dont then you will just have to sit back and be jealous as you can never cure jealousy trust me I am like the most jealous person ever and it never goes away.
Sorry I cant be more of a help, jealousy sucks
x

[fifimia]

i know EXACTLY how you feel, both with having confusing and fucked up relationships, and being insanely jelous.
I just got dumped two days ago and all i can do ever since is picture him having sex with random women, all OFCOURSE, skinnier and prettier and more fun and lovely then me.

you're jelous 'cause your insecure..VERY insecure. I wish I could tell you how to fix it...

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Why is she your ex?
More importantly why are you both messing around with each other? No offence lovely but if you both still like each other then you might as well be in a relationship seen as your doin relationship things anyway.
However if you dont then you will just have to sit back and be jealous as you can never cure jealousy trust me I am like the most jealous person ever and it never goes away.
Sorry I cant be more of a help, jealousy sucks
x

ermm not sure she dumped me for no reason lol. although probably jealousy didn't help....

I get what your saying but it seems like she keeps hiding stuff (since we split) and it's anoying she's saying she wants me back then will go off with some guy to cinema etc.. and kiss cuddle etc... grr...

ahh I know jealousy sucks so much I tried to address it in counciling etc.. but just a no go

[applecrumble]

i know EXACTLY how you feel, both with having confusing and fucked up relationships, and being insanely jelous.
I just got dumped two days ago and all i can do ever since is picture him having sex with random women, all OFCOURSE, skinnier and prettier and more fun and lovely then me.

you're jelous 'cause your insecure..VERY insecure. I wish I could tell you how to fix it...

Ahh sorry to hear about your relationship I hope something works out

ahh I get that i'm insecure im incredibly un-motivated/self conscious/paranoid/jelous etc.. the list goes on

I just wish I wasn't...
it sucks as 5 years ago I was doing modelling etc... my how that's changed


Thank you both for your replies x

[ThenCametheRain]

well, its better to have loved and loss than to never have loved at all, right?

[keni:)]

Ahh!! Im the exact same way with my boyfriend...he accused me of being so paranoid or untrusting of him..i feel horrible becuase i do trust him but its like...things will make it seem like he's hiding something, and ill get so mad, and i'll be sure he's doing something behind my back, but once i confront him it winds up being a huge misunderstanding and i just feel so stupid and like a bad girlfriend...

[Vision Thing]

Well, it may not be a nice thing to hear, but straight out, most girls don't want to be around a guy with jealously issues. I'd say most think its sweet to a point if a guy is protective of them, but when you are using it to start fights, like you said, then they'll get annoyed. I don't actually think you're intentionally trying to start a fight, but that's probably what it comes across like. By suggesting she's a cheater, you're actually being very insulting and vindictive.

However, it does sound like she's not over you either, as she keeps coming back for sex. And if she still does, you'll still stay hung up on her. So you've really got to end it, as bad as it sounds, because its so emotionally draining on both of you. There's plenty of girls out there who are looking for a nice guy like you, so step back and think about yourself. You definately deserve more than someone who's just indecisive and wont commit to a strong relationship.