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  1. 05-05-2009 #1
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    Exclamation i can't live up to my sister...

    me and my sister are close in age, and she is better at everything than me. I'm so shy, awkward, un-gifted, and fat- but she is perfect. Perfect hair, body, good at everything, etc.
    Well, for writing class we all are suppose to write sections of this story... I can't even write mine. Every time i do i get nervous and start spitting up....
    Does anyone have any advice for me? Please help me

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    Default I am where you are too

    Hi,
    I don't really have any wise words of wisdom for you. I just wanted you to know you weren't alone.
    I am (I think), a lot older than you, but have major issues with my sister. I never feel like I measure up to her.
    She is 4 yrs older than me. Has the perfect family, the perfect home, the near perfect life.
    I ... on the other hand, have always been treated like the baby. Not to be trusted with anything.
    I have eating disorders, an alcohol dependency, and major anxiety/depression issues.
    Like I say....I can't offer any real help, cuz I am as in need as you.
    I just wanted you to know, that I know how you feel.
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    thanks, its good to know im not alone.

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    I don't have a sister. but I'm constantly comparing myself to my friends and cousins, and I don't feel like I measure up. So I can somewhat relate.

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    Default RE

    Quote Originally Posted by figureskater View Post
    I don't have a sister. but I'm constantly comparing myself to my friends and cousins, and I don't feel like I measure up. So I can somewhat relate.
    Me too. Stay strong friends and remember you live only for yourself!

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    I can relate im constantly jealous of my little sister.
    She never goes threw what i do I hate it, it seems like she's perfect

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    you have to know that you are your own person. you you you. you are NOT her, you will never be her and that is in no way a bad thing. that is a WONDERFUL thing because you are you and only you. unique. it will take time and patience and a lot of self-work but i hope that you can realize the beauty of being you: independent and incomparable to anyone else. its like loving two things equally, but for different reasons. you can't compare them because they are just DIFFERENT. they're both awesome though, one of the reasons being BECAUSE they are so different.
    "I can't explain myself, I'm afraid, Sir, because I'm not myself you see."-Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

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    Here's something that might help:

    A wise man was about to lecture some monks before dinner when he noticed that the bamboo screen lowered for meditation had not been rolled up. He pointed to it. Two monks arose from the audience and rolled it up.

    He, observing the monks as they rolled up the screen, said: `The first monk is good, but the second has failed.'
    This is a koan intended to help the reader approach a state of enlightenment. It's been said to mean many different things but IMO the wise man is saying the second monk has failed because he's trying to measure up to the first, and he never can, not because he'll always be inferior, but because the act of measuring ourselves by others is intrinsicly flawed. The second monk would be happier if he stopped competing with the other monks and found his own way.

    I have paraphrased the koan to make it easier to read but if you want to see the original syntax you can go here:

    http://www.ibiblio.org/zen/gateless-gate/26.html

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    you're really not alone! my sister is 4 years older than me, she's smarter, skinnier, taller, prettier, funnier, and more outgoing than me. i'm so shy, awkward, short and fat. my mom's friends always tell her that she's so pretty and skinny and that she could be ms. america. but they only said something to me after i lost weight then they told me i was getting prettier and starting to look like my sister. im determined to lose a lot more weight now...

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    Quote Originally Posted by figureskater View Post
    I don't have a sister. but I'm constantly comparing myself to my friends and cousins, and I don't feel like I measure up. So I can somewhat relate.
    i can deff relate i have no sisters but compare myself to my friends and cousins...it sucks
    Think Thin...Think Pretty...Think Delicate...

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